If misery loves company, I’d rather be alone…

January 31st, 2013

I get it, you’re unhappy. You have made that clear to me on countless occasions. You’re stressed for a number of reasons. All the things that could possibly have gone wrong in your life have gone wrong. It’s overwhelming for you. It’s suffocating and forcing you to be the way that you are. I may not understand it, but I will reserve my judgment because I haven’t walked in your shoes nor have I felt the magnitude of your pain and struggle. I have not held the unfair cards that life has dealt you.

What feeds your misery? I can analyze and provide my theories to you based on the events that you have been through.  I get that you are a product of those events. How could you not be? We are all human at the end of the day. What I don’t get is why have you allowed those events to define you? I have listened to you and tried to understand your side but in the end we are always left at an impasse. In the end it boils down to you and your outlook. I will respect you enough to know when to leave you alone and just let you be. If you want to be helped you would show a sign. A sign that you are taking a step to break through a pattern that causes you more unhappiness and pain. I would be there to help you once you were ready to help yourself. You show me no sign though. So I will back down and if ever you are ready I will be there waiting for you. Until that moment though, I will keep my distance. I will let you live the life that you want for yourself. However, I will not let you pull me into your misery. I refuse to give you that power. I wish you well but I have to put myself first; even if that means to escape from the shadow of your misery.

Your misery has spread like a cancer. It wants to invade my life. At times I have allowed it. It’s not your fault; I hold myself accountable because I let it in. I have realized that your goal is to rally as many people as you can to join you because that’s what keeps the flames of your misery alive. Today, I have made the decision to not be your catalyst. I will not be the fuel which keeps you thriving. Today when you knock on my door, I will let you in if you leave your accompanying misery outside. I pray that I have the strength to refuse its entry when you come knocking again tomorrow. And the day after that. I know that this all lies on me. A daily test in my life that I will go through. I already know that I may fail this test some days but as long as I am aware of this pattern, I am hopeful that I will prevail from your cloud of misery.

I want to thank you. Through it all, although I may have not have liked the person I became when I let your misery enter my life, you have forced me to want more for myself. More for my life and how I want to live it. I may not have gotten this lesson had I not been in your company. Now that I am aware, I will take this as a lesson learned and apply it to my life.

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4 Responses to “If misery loves company, I’d rather be alone…”

  1. Ss says:

    High quality blogging sir.

    “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”

    - Charles Swindoll.

  2. Sim Jhita says:

    Another full of life, positivity & light blog bro! Yes you are right our lives are not determined by what happens to us but How we react, not by what life brings to us, but the Attitude we bring to life. Love, peace and light always :)

  3. Bhagwant says:

    for every action there is a reaction. Action and reactions are part of life. It is important how one reacts to the reaction from the action. If one tackles with positive thinking then the reaction will not be very cumbersome and the reaction to the action may pass calmly. Good blog.

  4. Jhaga says:

    Wow, that was so well written and hits so close to home…sometimes i find it hard to disassociate myself, however as stated, every action has a reaction and the reaction for me is often feeling overwhelmed. This is worth a second, even third read to bring things back into perspective. Thanks hansy, i appreciate your blogs so much

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